Design Delusions & Reality

I am not here to sell you an illusion.

Many times, I am asked to design homes and the reason I am coming in is a lot deeper than needing a new look. Sometimes, it's based on a dream for better family relationships, joyful picture perfect gatherings and a need to heal or grow into a new chapter of life.

Many times, there is a mentality of "build it and they will come" , or "build it and then I will be ready" - there is an expectation that with a renovated space bliss will ensue, everyone will behave, come at the right time, the food will look amazing, and the bathroom will stay clean and automatically refill the toilet paper. You get it - with this run on sentence we can begin to see the issue that many an instagram photo or  HGTV special tends to put into our minds. Perfection and reality are just at odds most of the time despite our greatest expectations. 

In the spirit of summer assignments (shoutout to my veteran teacher mom!) I have started about 4 books since May (sidenote: only finished one Anne Lamott's Travelling Mercies). One of the others currently being paged through is Lara Casey of Cultivate What Matters (and formerly Southern Weddings) Make it Happen. Ya'll this book is good for the soul.

On a personal level, it is challenging me to revalutate how I define purpose and success - and truly question where I am in accepting the path those definitions put me on. As a business owner - I feel challenged already to make things happen, but making sure I am intentional and NOT led by fear is critical! I love the counsel Lara gives about decision making and the fear based stories we can make a habit of telling ourselves.

Take a look at the excerpt below - its hits home for a lot of the spaces I walk into as there are issues bigger than any design solution that must start getting tackled to really make the entire vision come to reality. Heart work and Hard work are sometimes the same thing and are the unseen efforts that make a house home.

"You can clean your house from top to bottom, get new plants, buy new furniture, or cover your walls with a fresh coat of paint, but that won't transform the heart living inside those walls. Surface changes may make you feel new and refreshed but only for a short while."

- Lara Casey , Make it Happen


I am sure there will be more to share, but for this moment let that thought simmer and think about how the seen and unseen must both be worked on constantly and intentionally - and even then there are times we cannot anticipate or control the results. Life is suprising and thank goodness it doesn't end up the way I plan many times! I hate it at the moment as a planner/control freak, but years later, I see where my best intentions were hampered for the best of all involved - Thank God.

The Takeaway

 My copy of this book is on my nightstand and I have been getting a chapter in either first thing in the morning or right before bed. I like the morning sessions as they really allow me to have a thought to chew on all day.

My copy of this book is on my nightstand and I have been getting a chapter in either first thing in the morning or right before bed. I like the morning sessions as they really allow me to have a thought to chew on all day.

 

Spaces are a reflection of us. How would your space look if you believe you are enough, you have enough, and you are willing to help others have enough? What does enough mean to you - is it relational, material or spiritual - or all of those things? Something to think about.

Also - this book - highly recommend. It's a workbook, personal testimony, and love letter all in one. Thank you Lara for sharing your heart and so much hard earned wisdom! 

Cracker Jack Prize

Click here for a moment I think perfectly portrays when purpose, passion,  pursuit, perfection and #allthefeels intersect.